For which bridal events should you send thank-you notes?
In the time between your engagement and your wedding you will write more thank-you notes than you ever will for the rest of your life. It’s a lot but it is so important! You should be sure to write thank-you notes for all of the events for your wedding, certainly for each gifts received; engagement, shower, wedding, even if it is from the same person is it really important to acknowledge the generosity of each gift individually.
And don’t forget to thank your friends and family for their kind action and generosity in other ways, such as their support and advice, for throwing a shower or bachelorette party, for traveling to be with you at those events.
Showing your true appreciation for friends and family during all of these events is a way to show them how much you appreciate their love and support.
How soon after the wedding should thank-you notes be sent out?
I usually say shoot for no more than two months. Etiquette says you have a year, but I strongly encourage writing thank-you notes right away, as you receive gifts or within a few weeks of an event, while everything is fresh in your mind. Also the longer you put it off, the more it looms and the bigger and more daunting the project seems. It’s not that overwhelming if you can get to it right away while you are still basking in the afterglow of all the love and good wishes.
Should thank-you notes be handwritten or can they be printed through a printer?
I’m still old school about this and a strong advocate for thoughtful handwritten thank-you notes. Even if you don’t have a beautiful handwriting, it comes from the heart and shows time and effort and your personality. If people took the time and energy and expense to buy you a gift or do something thoughtful, the least you can do is take a few minutes to hand write a note. It makes it a special keepsake. I’m not sure that in 50 years, when cleaning out your attic, you are going to find emails or computer generated mass thank-you notes that your grandmother lovingly saved as a keepsake. But maybe? I might be old fashioned on that front.